Wednesday, August 31, 2011

LOVE IS PATIENT, LOVE IS KIND


My 3yr old daughter has been so attached to me since the day she was born.  Honestly, I only wanted boys, but God in his perfect will, blessed my life with a little princess.  Little did I know what a strong bond was going to be developed between us.  I really find it extraordinary how deep and unconditional her love for me isDaddy, on the other hand, doesn’t quite delight in our relationship.  During my second pregnancy he yearned to have a baby girl and be able to enjoy the father & daughter special connection.  Unfortunately during her first two years the love has not been entirely reciprocate. No matter how much effort he has put into getting her attention, she always runs to mommy.  Most of our friends have always pointed out how abnormal our family is as our 6yr old boy is all over dad and our little princess can't survive without mom.  After all, it is well known that boys prefer their mom and girls their dads, which in turns makes us atypical family.  A few months ago, as we were purchasing some furniture, the salesman at the store offered my husband the following advice:  “Just be patient, in a few years, she will only have eyes for you and YOU only!”  I'm not certain if he believed him or not, but surely he's been anxiously waiting for that day. 


I must admit that he's gotten somewhat of a progress during the past 8 months or so.  She now actually enjoys spending time with dad and will even firmly admit that she loves Mommy and Daddy too!  I could see the sparkles in my hubby's eyes when our little princess seems to be finally falling for him…even though mommy is still her favorite.  It's such a nice warm feeling to be an spectator of the whole ordeal.  It actually makes me feel so complete. You see, my dad was very unfortunate to have missed out on my childhood, which in turn has made me desire to not just find a soul mate but a man who would make a great father too.  I’ve prayed for our kids to be able to have that strong adventurous yet warmhearted male figure in their lives. And though they don't understand it yet, I know that one day they'll be so grateful to God for having had such a great man to complete their lives. Yes, my husband is just all that I ever wished for and more!
                                                                                               
I can’t help but to think that in the same manner that my husband so patiently awaits for our daughter to come around, so does God await on each soul to turn to him. His love for us is so infinite and incomprehensible.  But I assure you, that once you open up the door to his everlasting love there are no regrets.

To end my story I must say that patience does pays off!  This past Saturday, our little princess actually chose to go with Daddy to the Home Depot store instead of staying home with mommy.  It was one of those special moments that will be treasured forever and I'm just glad that for a change my hubby got to enjoy those butterfly kisses that I'm always writing about.

“The Lord isn’t really being slow about his promise, as some people think. No, he is being patient for your sake…”  2 Peter 3:9a
“..may you have the power to understand, as all God’s people should, how wide, how long, how high, and how deep his love is. 19 May you experience the love of Christ, though it is too great to understand fully. Then you will be made complete with all the fullness of life and power that comes from God.” Ephesians 3:18-19

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6 comments:

  1. omg i love it makes me cry wen i remember it javi

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  2. Great post! I'm visiting you from the Mom Loop Friday Follow!

    It is always hard when children strongly favor one parent! Hard on the parent that feels rejected. AND hard on the parent that feels like they have another appendage glued to them!

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  3. What a great daddy your hubby is to be patient! I have no doubt that there will be MANY times in the future when daddy is her "favorite." But surely it's hard to see that right now- when your hubby is wanting to be close. Love your analogy with God's patience!

    Thanks for joining Mom Loop Friday Follow!

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  4. Awww... as a dad I can imagine how hard it must have been for your hubby to be patient. I'm so happy to hear it's paying off finally.

    This part you wrote is especially lovely:

    "I can’t help but to think that in the same manner that my husband so patiently awaits for our daughter to come around, so does God await on each soul to turn to him."

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  5. What a wonderful dad! He must have been thrilled to have her come with him.

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  6. I bet both Dad and daughter enjoyed the trip!
    I know how hard it is for them to go through their favorite parent stages - but the time will come! What a sweet little princess she is in that picture!

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